15yr old and her grades need advice!!!!!?

My daughter is great by all normal measures, my issue is here slipping grades and her effort level. Up until this year, 10th grade, she has always been a 3.0-3.7gpa student with little effort. This year she started out with a 2.9 the following were taken away: Movies with friends, no cell phone after 9pm, no sleepovers..even though there was a exception, and minimal internet 1hr a day or so. She started tutoring with some juniors/seniors twice a week and now it looks like her grades will be 4 B's and 3 C's, even worse! I love here to death, but I don't see the effort I would like to see. If you have time to chill out, internet, talk to your friends, you don't have time to study everyday for 1hr-1.5hrs? I want so much to reward her, but I feel like I'm not doing her or myself due service if I do. She wants to take drivers ed so she can drive next year, I want to buy her a laptop, and let her have fun with her friends etc.

15yr old and her grades need advice!!!!!?
Give her detention!!! make her study and take time see that she does by helping her. don't buy her anything until she does.don't reward behavior that isn't proper wether it is with her attitude or if is with anybody else. ease up on the harping and just explain to her that as long as you do your best that is what you require.take a walk with her every day and just not say a word she will eventually open to you and then maybe if you listen you will find some clues as to why her grades are failing.don't be afraid to do the right thing ,even when she screams hurtful words.be her parent for if you aren't than somebody else will--that is not what you want.don't be afraid to do drastic things such as take away her privileges and don't be afraid to be an example. THROW AWAY THAT STUPID TELEVISION!!!!let her earn her space.THROW AWAY YOUR TELEVISION,BE HER PARENT. Let her get her drivers license but don't let her drive!!!!!!!until you have handle on her.Be consistent.
Reply:Instead of taking things away as a punishment, why don't you give her an incentive for her hard work, (i.e. for every "A" she receives give her $5, and if she receives all "A's" give her a bonus of $100.) Rewards works better.
Reply:With greatest respect, as a 15 yr old girl myself it sounds to me like you're being slightly too harsh on her. Instead of taking away her luxuries etc. make sure that you help her realize that she has to work hard at school in order to get to where she wants to be in life. Talk to her about what she might like to do when she leaves school. Give her advice and help through her studies. Tell her that you're there for her if she needs help with anything. Whatever you do, don't pressure her, it will just make her feel like you want her to do well for your sake instead of hers. Compromise with her tell her that if she spends a certain amount of time on her studies that she can go out with her friends after wards etc.





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Reply:You make a schedule for her to follow; like study and homework after school, eat dinner, talk to some friends, study for an hour, then free time. She can do whatever she wants. Making a calendar for tests and homework might be easier as well. Make it a team effort. Get involved with her.





Parent and former troubled teenager.
Reply:Explain to her how you feel about the situation. Obviously, you love your daughter and want her to excel in school among other things. I would take a certain time of the day, and set is aside.. possibly an hour or two after she gets out of school. Explain to your daughter that she will use this as study time. She will not be allowed to do anything else during this time. Once she completes the studying time then she can talk to her friends, Internet, etc. Let her know that you will help her during this time. Whatever you do, make sure this study time is at home. You need to observe that she is actually taking advantage of this time and not wasting it. I hope my suggestions help!
Reply:I think, for one, you are giving her too much overwhelming materialistic things. She knows that no matter what negative impact she accomplishes, she will always get some reward from mother. Why is it so hard for mothers in this modern society to have structure in the household? Children are expecting you to have control and when you don't and won't, they take advantage to a higher level. You will see that it will escalate to worse things if you don't nip it now. No to the dr ed, no to the laptop, no to parties, etc until the grades rise to where they need to be. Give her a time frame-which starts now and isn't completed until the whole semester. You will feel that you're a bad mother, but you are not! You are taking control of your daughters future while she is still in your care.