12 year old son failing...?

my 12 year old son james is failing almost every subject in school. the best grade he has is a c- and thats in reading. he has and f in math, d in science, d+ in language arts, spelling he has a c-, social studies he has an f, and in FACS (Family And Consumer Science) he has a d-!! he refuses to go with a tutor, he never does his homework, never turns anything in on time, and he has worth grades than a 4th grader!!(his homeroom teacher told me that) what should i do?? how can i help him improve??

12 year old son failing...?
Be the parent %26amp; give him the ultimatum.No priviledges until his grades %26amp; behavior improve.You know his potential so set a realistic goal for him and stick to it.
Reply:If he was not like this in the past, there is definitely something behind it all. Probe him with questions. Ask his friends.
Reply:You can only help him improve if he wants to improve. It sounds like he doesn't care about school or grades which is why he isn't turning in homework or any of that.





I think you need to start punishing him for bad grades. I don't think he has a learning disability, I think he just doesn't care about his work.





Punish him for bad grades, and definitely reward for good grades.
Reply:Perhaps he doesn't understand the work and is discouraged or maybe the work is too easy for him and he is bored. I would call the school and have him talk to a counselor. They can pry to see what's going on. I wouldn't punish him until you figure out what the real problem is.
Reply:Before you go dishing out punishment, maybe there is something more to this. Maybe your son has a learning disablility. It could also be ADD. Some ADD kids have trouble with authority. I'm not saying there is something wrong with your son, but I'd hold off punishment until you talk to him to make sure he is OK. Good Luck.
Reply:BETTER PARENTING!! HELP HIM!!!! and kick his ***!!! dont let him go anywhre do anything, see anyone until he realizes the importance of his education!! make sure he isnt dyslexic or anything medically wrong with him first tho. ♥
Reply:he could have a problem trying getting him tested.
Reply:I am certainly no expert or psychologist but.... You need to get to the root cause of James' disinterest. If he will be honest with you, great. If not, keep drilling. You'll chip-off parts of the real answers for his failure. I assume his teacher has some feeling of why he has a I-could-care-less attitude. I believe that the most important thing you can do in life (besides praying for others) is tell someone what a great job they are doing. If James is told how excellent he is at something, like reading... watch his eyes light-up. Encourage him at home, for that is where life begins. Good luck to James and you. Don't lose patience. Encourage. Jim
Reply:12 years old and in the 4th grade......wow


Most 12 years old are in the 6th or 7th grade by then
Reply:This is a very common problem in teens. Almost all children, especially boys experience this. WE teach our children the basics but forget to teach them how to organize, take care of, and turn in homework assignments. Set up a plan with him then tell him you are going to call and check to make sure the work gets in or that you will stop by the teacher and check every day.


Just getting the homework in on time will help bring up the grades. Missing assignments bring down the grade a lot.


As for the loss of academic years...it will either have to be a tutor or you.
Reply:omg, and i thought my grade were horrible. thats bad.
Reply:My son was the same way, we first looked into school to see if there was dome problem such as bullies or hanging with the wrong crowd. We then got him tested and found out that he had a 3rd grade comprehension level the school never taught him the basics he did not know how to do the work he faked his way through. We took him for toutering they taught him the basics all over again. He received his report card earlier this week he has nothing lower then a c now :)
Reply:he's 12! be a parent and make him go to a tutor. find out if he has a learning disability. he wouldn't admit it if he doesn't understand school work. just don't make him feel stupid. if all else fails, ground him. take away the TV, video games, cell phone, etc.
Reply:Maybe provide a little prize for good grades?
Reply:There really is NOTHING that YOU can do. It is HIS schoolwork and by his age he is the one responsible for it not you. A tutor is not going to do anything for him since the problem isn't him KNOWING the work but DOING it. So you'd be basially paying someone to tell your son to do his work, if you think this is cost effective fine. But I never did. So he doesn't do his work, what is the WORST that can happen? He will fail. Fine, let him fail. Let him see his peers moving on up a grade level while he is stuck behind with those who are currently in elementary school. Let those in his class whisper and poke fun at him behind his back and let him have to deal with the stigma of it all. My daughter flunked out of highschool and because of her age had to attend adult classes, she did so and passed with flying colors, is now in college and maintains a 3.5 grade point average (A). flunking a grade can sometimes be better for the child, they learn a valuable lesson and like my daughter go on to excell independently. You might look into alternative schooling methods, he may do quite well on independent studies, that's how my daughter excelled, or he might to better with homeschooling. The "classroom" expierence isn't for all kids, many kids don't do well in public schools or classroom settings.