I took in my 16 year old niece to live with me. Her mom, my sister, put a restraining order against her that doesn't expire until she's 18 as a result of a fight they got in. Since I didn't want her to become a ward of the state of NY I told her she could live with me when I moved to GA. I signed up for food stamps b/c I brought home very little money. In the end, I had to move back to NY to get work and leave her w/my sister in GA until I could enroll her in Job Corps. I crashed my car, so I got rides to work. I then found out that my niece had been skipping school and was flunking. She was also skipping her tutoring sessions. My electricity got cut off and the same day I was fired from my job. Now that I'm in NY I have a job but am staying w/friends. Should I get a weekly room to rent for the both of us to live in while I enroll her in Job Corp and bring her up here? My sister wants her out of her house in GA. Her mother still won't take her in. Get a room? Let her go?
I've been trying to help out my 16 year niece. She's homeless.?
This sounds fishy.. Can a parent really get a restraining order against a minor child? Did you know that if she was a ward of the state you could apply for temporary guardianship and the state would give you money to cover costs? I can appreciate that you want to help, but you're barely able to look after yourself. Tell your sister (the girl's mother) to suck it up and start acting like a proper parent. She brought this girl into the world, she has a responsibility to work throught the issues with her daughter. (Like the rest of us did.)
Reply:TeTe you have done your best, your life situation isn't the same as when you started and she hasn't lightened any of your load. Sometimes, many times, hell often, we do have to say enough is enough. But then I can't tell you when you have had enough, only you can do that. I say Job Corp, all the way. She has to learn that every time she shows her little azz, there isn't always going to be someone there to cover it. You can let her go and you can let her go, but Job Corp would teach her something and hopefully give her that other chance. She is 16, the City and surrounding areas can be harsh, but then I am sure you have gone through all of that. Put her in prayer and send it to God, I had to do it with my daughter, you do have to let go. You took her when her Mom didn't want her and she shows no gratitude, not that you were looking for any, but damn. Sorry, it urks me when young ladies and men take given chances and blow them. I will keep you and her in prayer and that is where you should put it. God Bless.
Reply:get a room wow iam sorry about your case , she sound she been thru alot that why she acting up , she need to know that some love her , and care about she might get preg. really soon that what happen to me . best of luck
Reply:If she wants to have a better life, then she should be making an effort. Skipping school, doesn't make it seem like she's trying to hard. Explain to her you can not keep picking up the pieces when she screws up. Tell her, and say it firmly, that if she lives with you, she will be attending some type of school. She'll get a job so she can help you out with the rent. It sounds like she may need a little tough love. I don't think her mother did the right thing by just putting her out. I don't think she wanted to deal with her. Best of luck to the both of you.
Reply:I agree with may08. Sit her down and tell her that since she is old enough, she should get a part time job to help support. Tell her that you aren't making enough money to ssupport the both of you.
Reply:i think that you should get a room, a close friend of mine got kicked out by him mum because his step dad and him had a fight and then he want to live with his auntie and then his auntiekicked him out cos shes having a baby soon and wont have time for my friend who is 17, i have never seen him so unhappy and he is depressed and i'm worried he'll commit suicide, i am very worried about him and when i read your question it reminded me of him, so please let your niece stay with you, i know that everyone has there faults and noone is perfect but please let her stay becuse noone in the world deserves what my friend has been through and i wouldnt want anyone to
Reply:my friends dead cause he took in ms trouble she cut him in half with a shotgun.
if she doesnt want the help let her go. they have institutions for that
Reply:No, what you need to do is run out and buy a great big can of whoopup, and beat her hind end. You felt sorry for her not really knowing the entire situation at home. You thought she'd treat you with respect. Instead of enrolling her in job corps, send her to a military boot camp where they WILL NOT HESITATE to open up that can.
Reply:Your niece needs to be sat down and explained to that if she wants to have a roof over her head that she will obey the house rules. If not she will be turned into child protective services. You're doing her a huge favor by letting her stay with you.
Reply:send her to me
Monday, May 24, 2010
Are your freshman grades important in high school?
Here are my grade: (i am current;y a sophemore)
Freshmen Year: GPA:3.36
English: A-
Algebra: A-
Health: A-
Euro History 2: B-
Latin Amer and Carib: A
Animation:A-
Chemistry: B
Latin 1: B
PS -i messed up my fresh. year because i didnt care bout school then
Sohp. Year GPA: 4.34ish
Geometry: A
Algebra: A
English (level 1): A
Graphics Tech: A
Spanish 1/2 (level 1): A
Biology (level 1): B
Pysical Ed: A
Acticities i do are X country, Volleyball, Spanish club, Community Service Club, Medical Club, and should start tutoring soon. But i didn't do any clubs fresh year except Community Service club my fresh year, and nothing else. I also got 1 Saturday Detention fresh year, so far i am clean though.
Do you think that my chances of getting into a good college are partially ruined b/c of my fresh year?
What colleges do you think i can get into? (i am looking to becoming an orthodontist/ oral surgeon maybe, but at least something in medical field).
Are your freshman grades important in high school?
Some schools count all grades equally, but some do not count freshman grades at all, so it just depends on where you want to go. Also, if you end up having resolved the problems of your freshman year, and do well on the SATs, you will still have a lot of chances.
Reply:your freshman grades are just as important as your senior grades, since they go towards the same cause- your GPA.
But your GPA is excellent, and if you're determined now, I'm sure it'll only rise more.
Keep it up!
Reply:You can't have a 4.34 (if you go on 4.0 scale ) unless you take AP classes. In sophmore year, you didn't take AP. Unless you go on 5.0 scale then that is different of course.
Colleges do care about freshmen year, they care that you passed all your classes. Until you take the SAT tests then I would have no idea what your chances are. If you're planning on the Ivy's (Harvard, Princeton, Columbia, Cornell, Brown, Pen State) then all A's is crucial and though other people may tell you "it's not all about grades!" have you ever seen someone with a B average get into Stanford? For now, you have all A's (except a B in PE but that doesn't really count as long as you don't get below that).
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Freshmen Year: GPA:3.36
English: A-
Algebra: A-
Health: A-
Euro History 2: B-
Latin Amer and Carib: A
Animation:A-
Chemistry: B
Latin 1: B
PS -i messed up my fresh. year because i didnt care bout school then
Sohp. Year GPA: 4.34ish
Geometry: A
Algebra: A
English (level 1): A
Graphics Tech: A
Spanish 1/2 (level 1): A
Biology (level 1): B
Pysical Ed: A
Acticities i do are X country, Volleyball, Spanish club, Community Service Club, Medical Club, and should start tutoring soon. But i didn't do any clubs fresh year except Community Service club my fresh year, and nothing else. I also got 1 Saturday Detention fresh year, so far i am clean though.
Do you think that my chances of getting into a good college are partially ruined b/c of my fresh year?
What colleges do you think i can get into? (i am looking to becoming an orthodontist/ oral surgeon maybe, but at least something in medical field).
Are your freshman grades important in high school?
Some schools count all grades equally, but some do not count freshman grades at all, so it just depends on where you want to go. Also, if you end up having resolved the problems of your freshman year, and do well on the SATs, you will still have a lot of chances.
Reply:your freshman grades are just as important as your senior grades, since they go towards the same cause- your GPA.
But your GPA is excellent, and if you're determined now, I'm sure it'll only rise more.
Keep it up!
Reply:You can't have a 4.34 (if you go on 4.0 scale ) unless you take AP classes. In sophmore year, you didn't take AP. Unless you go on 5.0 scale then that is different of course.
Colleges do care about freshmen year, they care that you passed all your classes. Until you take the SAT tests then I would have no idea what your chances are. If you're planning on the Ivy's (Harvard, Princeton, Columbia, Cornell, Brown, Pen State) then all A's is crucial and though other people may tell you "it's not all about grades!" have you ever seen someone with a B average get into Stanford? For now, you have all A's (except a B in PE but that doesn't really count as long as you don't get below that).
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My son's grades???
My son just started Jr. High and he wanted to take Pre-Algebra instead of the regular 7th grade math, he has had math tutoring in the past but started doing much better last school year, but today I got his report card and he is usually a straight A student, but he got a C-. Also his behavior in another class is an N and he is always an H student, for three years in a row. Any ideas on how I can approach him and work out this problem? I think he just doesn't understand the work in the math and he and this other teacher have a personality clash, but he can't change classes now.
My son's grades???
personality clashes will happen all through his life... infact i work with someone that gets on my nerves and i do everything possible to keep from having to speak to them for any reason. luckily they work in a different area and mostly keeps to themself. i can't quit my job over it no more than he can quit his class. this is a great opportunity for him to learn how to deal with this. as far as his grades go, at report cards time was the first hint you had he wasn't doing so good? well, my advice to you would be to get that teachers email address and keep in contact and ask her weekly for grade updates, test and quiz dates, and follow up making sure his homework is getting turned in. i know it is his responsibility to stay on top of this stuff but you can't get mad if you are aren't making sure he is doing what is expected of him....
Reply:on the bright side, when you think of colleges they wont be looking at these grades. i would suggest you to help your son develop good working habits though. highschool is alot harder to handle. junior high is to help kids get ready to enter highschool where everything matters from then. Report It
Reply:I would suggest you get him tutoring again.
It sounds as if this personality clash that he has
with the teacher can be affecting his interest and willingness
to pay attention in class. If he is so busy hating the teacher, he isn't paying attention and if he isn't paying attention, then how is he going to know what he is doing. Its unfortunate, but I have hated many of my math teachers and there isn't much you can do as a parent to change your child's feelings towards this teacher.
Reply:Have you talked to your son to find out why he is having trouble with pre-Algebra and this particular teacher? Once you have the information on his perspective of the situations will hopefully make clear the next actions.
And even if it is not school policy to let students change classes at this point, there should be some exception for special circumstances. Otherwise it's going to be a long semester/year for everyone involved.
Reply:Jr. high is a difficult time for a kid. i had the same issue and the best thing my parents did was to just let me work it out. look at it this way these grades do not get looked at by colleges incourage him to keep trying but don't make it a huge deal. he's learning how to balance school life and social life and making friends it will get easier. it's tough to try to fit in and still make the grade.
Reply:Algebra is one thing that i never understood. Algebra 1 or Algebra 2. But i excelled in the "harder" geometry. Studies say that your brain works harder for one subject over the other and something like 2% of people do well in both. So don't worry about it, it is a hard class. I hated algebra. Definitely get him a tutor and check with his behavior. This could be another factor towards his grades. My teachers gave me automatic U's in behavior for sleeping. And if you sleep in math.... you are screwed. So check up on that, call the teacher, see whats up.
My son's grades???
personality clashes will happen all through his life... infact i work with someone that gets on my nerves and i do everything possible to keep from having to speak to them for any reason. luckily they work in a different area and mostly keeps to themself. i can't quit my job over it no more than he can quit his class. this is a great opportunity for him to learn how to deal with this. as far as his grades go, at report cards time was the first hint you had he wasn't doing so good? well, my advice to you would be to get that teachers email address and keep in contact and ask her weekly for grade updates, test and quiz dates, and follow up making sure his homework is getting turned in. i know it is his responsibility to stay on top of this stuff but you can't get mad if you are aren't making sure he is doing what is expected of him....
Reply:on the bright side, when you think of colleges they wont be looking at these grades. i would suggest you to help your son develop good working habits though. highschool is alot harder to handle. junior high is to help kids get ready to enter highschool where everything matters from then. Report It
Reply:I would suggest you get him tutoring again.
It sounds as if this personality clash that he has
with the teacher can be affecting his interest and willingness
to pay attention in class. If he is so busy hating the teacher, he isn't paying attention and if he isn't paying attention, then how is he going to know what he is doing. Its unfortunate, but I have hated many of my math teachers and there isn't much you can do as a parent to change your child's feelings towards this teacher.
Reply:Have you talked to your son to find out why he is having trouble with pre-Algebra and this particular teacher? Once you have the information on his perspective of the situations will hopefully make clear the next actions.
And even if it is not school policy to let students change classes at this point, there should be some exception for special circumstances. Otherwise it's going to be a long semester/year for everyone involved.
Reply:Jr. high is a difficult time for a kid. i had the same issue and the best thing my parents did was to just let me work it out. look at it this way these grades do not get looked at by colleges incourage him to keep trying but don't make it a huge deal. he's learning how to balance school life and social life and making friends it will get easier. it's tough to try to fit in and still make the grade.
Reply:Algebra is one thing that i never understood. Algebra 1 or Algebra 2. But i excelled in the "harder" geometry. Studies say that your brain works harder for one subject over the other and something like 2% of people do well in both. So don't worry about it, it is a hard class. I hated algebra. Definitely get him a tutor and check with his behavior. This could be another factor towards his grades. My teachers gave me automatic U's in behavior for sleeping. And if you sleep in math.... you are screwed. So check up on that, call the teacher, see whats up.
Does He Like Me or............?
A guy friend of mine is always looking at me. We've become really good friends and we're always flirting with eachother. Even our teacher tries to keep us as far apart as possible because she thinks we're going out, but he told me today that he thinks that these 2 grls in his Math tutoring class are rele hot! He tells me he loves me(in a friend kinda way) but im starting to like him. Does he like me back? or does he like the other grls? The other grls dont go 2 my skool so i c him more often then they do. HEEELPP!
Does He Like Me or............?
It sounds like he likes you, he might have just brought the other two girls up to see how you would react. If you like him back maybe one day when you guys are hanging out you should get on the subject and ask. :)
Reply:Ah, that old trick. Girl, he definitely likes you. He is only trying to make you jealous. And you said it yourself, you two flirt. It doesn't matter if you are only "just friends" you like each other. Though, if I was you, go ask him out to see if you have a chance together.
Does He Like Me or............?
It sounds like he likes you, he might have just brought the other two girls up to see how you would react. If you like him back maybe one day when you guys are hanging out you should get on the subject and ask. :)
Reply:Ah, that old trick. Girl, he definitely likes you. He is only trying to make you jealous. And you said it yourself, you two flirt. It doesn't matter if you are only "just friends" you like each other. Though, if I was you, go ask him out to see if you have a chance together.
I am doing bad at school help?
I don't know what is wrong with me. This is the third week of my junior year in high school. My grades are like C's n D's. And I have a bad start. My classes are 2 honors, 2 CP, %26amp; 2 cpu classes. I have no ride for tutoring. I try to understand but i don't. I try to study but its a failure. I don't talk in class and just listen to the teacher. But I just am a failure.
I am doing bad at school help?
You are not a failure. Failures have given up trying - as long as you keep trying, you still have the chance to succeed.
Sit down with each of your teachers individually and explain your problem. Let them know what you don't understand. Ask them if you can do certain assignments over for a better grade, or if they can help you figure out how to do better on the next assignment. Your teachers are eager to help you, but you need to ask them.
Also, talk to your dean or school counselor. They are also there to help you. Perhaps honors classes are not for you, and you would be more comfortable in a regular class. Explain your difficulty in getting to tutoring.
Also, talk with your parents. They need to help you find a way to get to tutoring, and need to understand why you are struggling.
Don't worry, lots of students struggle in the beginning of the school year (especially junior year, which is much more rigorous) and are able to change things and end with high grades. You can too, as long as you ask for help and don't give up.
Reply:study more , read more, join a club so you grt more honors and stuff and it will be great for your record and college application..and plus you'll get to meet friends!
um try to be less anxiety (shy, afraid to talk to ppl) and open up to ppl alittle more
smile too!
good luck!
Reply:I would definitely suggest that you talk to your teacher, dean of studies, counselor....whom ever will hear you out. School's staff likes it when students show true interest and concern and they will figure a way to get you the help you need. Also check in w/the tutoring class and find out if anyone is willing to help you with a ride. You'd be surprised how many times a student might live near your area. Also, get a study buddy from your class and a phone number where you will have someone to call and ask for help or advice when you are stuck. And don't stay quiet in class....ask questions....sometimes students are afraid or embarrassed to ask questions and you'd be amazed at how many others have the same confusions and doubts but are also hesitant to ask.
Whatever you do don't let yourself get behind...it sounds like you are a very bright person, you just need a little help and if you ask for it I'm sure things will get back on track..Good Luck!! :)
Reply:Have you ever tried to stay after class and talk to the teacher? If they see you are trying and you are still not getting it...most of them will be willing to help you out...you just have to take the extra time to talk to them individualy.
I am doing bad at school help?
You are not a failure. Failures have given up trying - as long as you keep trying, you still have the chance to succeed.
Sit down with each of your teachers individually and explain your problem. Let them know what you don't understand. Ask them if you can do certain assignments over for a better grade, or if they can help you figure out how to do better on the next assignment. Your teachers are eager to help you, but you need to ask them.
Also, talk to your dean or school counselor. They are also there to help you. Perhaps honors classes are not for you, and you would be more comfortable in a regular class. Explain your difficulty in getting to tutoring.
Also, talk with your parents. They need to help you find a way to get to tutoring, and need to understand why you are struggling.
Don't worry, lots of students struggle in the beginning of the school year (especially junior year, which is much more rigorous) and are able to change things and end with high grades. You can too, as long as you ask for help and don't give up.
Reply:study more , read more, join a club so you grt more honors and stuff and it will be great for your record and college application..and plus you'll get to meet friends!
um try to be less anxiety (shy, afraid to talk to ppl) and open up to ppl alittle more
smile too!
good luck!
Reply:I would definitely suggest that you talk to your teacher, dean of studies, counselor....whom ever will hear you out. School's staff likes it when students show true interest and concern and they will figure a way to get you the help you need. Also check in w/the tutoring class and find out if anyone is willing to help you with a ride. You'd be surprised how many times a student might live near your area. Also, get a study buddy from your class and a phone number where you will have someone to call and ask for help or advice when you are stuck. And don't stay quiet in class....ask questions....sometimes students are afraid or embarrassed to ask questions and you'd be amazed at how many others have the same confusions and doubts but are also hesitant to ask.
Whatever you do don't let yourself get behind...it sounds like you are a very bright person, you just need a little help and if you ask for it I'm sure things will get back on track..Good Luck!! :)
Reply:Have you ever tried to stay after class and talk to the teacher? If they see you are trying and you are still not getting it...most of them will be willing to help you out...you just have to take the extra time to talk to them individualy.
How to deal with bad grades and barely graduating?
My nephew, with whom my wife %26amp; I are very close, is graduating from the eighth grade (just barely). We have tried to encourage him by offering a camping trip %26amp; a laptop if he got A's and/or B's. We tried to make sure he had the help he needed to do well in all his classes (tutors). Unfortunately his mom isn't the best role model, basically saying she did poorly in school so it isn't a big deal that he does poorly too, and he lives with his grandmother b/c his mom can't hold down a job. What can we do to help our nephew? We try to help him see that doing well in school is important for his future so he can do the things we do that he dreams about like traveling, going to college and having a nice car etc. He has already been disciplined by having all recreational things he really likes, such as video games and TV, taken away. Unfortunately we live a two hour drive away and cannot be there in person for him as much as we'd like, but we speak to him on the phone frequently
How to deal with bad grades and barely graduating?
If he does not see it in his parents and within himself there is not much you can do.
Since you care so much have you considered taking him out of the situation he is in and taking him in? That may be just what he needs to help turn him around. But keep in mind that he is already behind and before High School hits he will need reinforcement and review of all the subjects he lacks to help prepare him for it. High School will not be as easy as Middle School was. His mom obviously does not care or he would have never gotten to this point. His grandmother can only do so much and the school work they need help with these days is like sending her to Mars and back. She will not be able to help him.
Phone calls alone won't help.
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If you're sister-in-law lives with her mother and the nephew is being raised by his grandmother because she can not hold a job and support him then she is not a fit mother and someone needs to find her unfit or confront her for bring unfit and help the child. He ha High School ahead of him to get his life where he needs it to be (on the right path).
Reply:I think that is so awesome that you are there for him and he has mentors like you. Just Awesome!
I agree with the custody thing however that could cause problems and he could withdrawal at the same time.
I would talk to the school and find out if they have sessions that he can attend, like a after school program. My son did this and wow to the improvement. He was a all A and/or B student until 9th grade.We knew that we had to do something.%26gt;%26gt; I contacted the school and they were more then willing to help. My son had to check in( after school scholars) and he would go two or three times a week for 1 1/2 hours each time. This gave him time to do his home work and/or get help. We also had a great Principal that would check in with him once a month and ask him how he was and how his grades were. The support system is there, sometimes closer than we think.
It made all the difference to/for him.
Don't give up....he needs you even at a distance!
Thinking of his age...and they need instant gratification, offer money for each quarter marking.
5 dollars for each A.....or 100.00 dollars for honor roll.
Kid love $$ however they do need something that is reachable and something they don't have to wait nine months for.
We did the 100.00 for honor roll....and it does work. Well two out of three children...lol
One more thought...send cards in the mail....ones with inspiration... something he receives and makes him feel important too.
Best wishes
Reply:well Why Not take him for the summer and show him what a real family is supposed to be like and then maybe even seriously think about having legal custody or adopting him.At the moment you are doing the very best you can with him and for him,Keep encourage him and calling him.
Reply:i think that he has lost his motivation to do well, because of what his mom says. it seems that when his mom says that it isnt a big deal that he's doing bad in school, he just takes it as his mom doesnt care. i guess talking to his mom and him both would help, and keep encouraging him, thats most important.
Reply:Speak to his mom.
Reply:Get him a big brother companion to help him get motivated.Phone calls alone wont help.He needs a role model close to his own age to give him a perspective on life.
Reply:There isn't much more you can do, unless you want to move closer or take custody of him.
Reply:See about finding him a professional big brother. Not so much for homework reasons, but when he sees this professional, or almost professional having all these cool things, his cool life, etc., that might be the kick in the butt your nephew needs.
Reply:Without pushing to get the education, does he respond to you and your wife favorably when you are all together? My reason for asking that question is have you any thought of being available for adoption of your nephew? Is there any chance for that to happen? That would probably answer all the challenges you have with him because of the distance. If that is not possible what about a foster parent type situation, can you get custody of him until he is of age. Since his Mother has a difficult time keeping a full time job, then I would think that she would be open to that idea. I'm sure the Grandparents would also be relieved because of the additional expense that its costing them to keeping your nephew. It would also be like giving him a second change to improve his grades if you could get him transferred to a school near you after he graduates from the eighth grade. If he really is interested in a higher education than it would be in his best interest to be around people that can generate positive actions and help in his behalf. He can do without any negative feed back. Some younger prople don't have any idea how to cope with that kind treatment. I really hope some of this advise will help you, Good Luck, I'm sure you will do the right thing for your nephews best interest.
Reply:Sounds like he is bored or occupied with other things in school other than learning. My oldest son realized this on his own and asked if he could go to an alternative school to finish high school. He has brought home nothing but A's and B's since and he is also going to graduate earlier than his peers. You may want to offer this as an option and see if the mother will let him stay with you so you can see it through. Good luck
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How to deal with bad grades and barely graduating?
If he does not see it in his parents and within himself there is not much you can do.
Since you care so much have you considered taking him out of the situation he is in and taking him in? That may be just what he needs to help turn him around. But keep in mind that he is already behind and before High School hits he will need reinforcement and review of all the subjects he lacks to help prepare him for it. High School will not be as easy as Middle School was. His mom obviously does not care or he would have never gotten to this point. His grandmother can only do so much and the school work they need help with these days is like sending her to Mars and back. She will not be able to help him.
Phone calls alone won't help.
ADDITION:
If you're sister-in-law lives with her mother and the nephew is being raised by his grandmother because she can not hold a job and support him then she is not a fit mother and someone needs to find her unfit or confront her for bring unfit and help the child. He ha High School ahead of him to get his life where he needs it to be (on the right path).
Reply:I think that is so awesome that you are there for him and he has mentors like you. Just Awesome!
I agree with the custody thing however that could cause problems and he could withdrawal at the same time.
I would talk to the school and find out if they have sessions that he can attend, like a after school program. My son did this and wow to the improvement. He was a all A and/or B student until 9th grade.We knew that we had to do something.%26gt;%26gt; I contacted the school and they were more then willing to help. My son had to check in( after school scholars) and he would go two or three times a week for 1 1/2 hours each time. This gave him time to do his home work and/or get help. We also had a great Principal that would check in with him once a month and ask him how he was and how his grades were. The support system is there, sometimes closer than we think.
It made all the difference to/for him.
Don't give up....he needs you even at a distance!
Thinking of his age...and they need instant gratification, offer money for each quarter marking.
5 dollars for each A.....or 100.00 dollars for honor roll.
Kid love $$ however they do need something that is reachable and something they don't have to wait nine months for.
We did the 100.00 for honor roll....and it does work. Well two out of three children...lol
One more thought...send cards in the mail....ones with inspiration... something he receives and makes him feel important too.
Best wishes
Reply:well Why Not take him for the summer and show him what a real family is supposed to be like and then maybe even seriously think about having legal custody or adopting him.At the moment you are doing the very best you can with him and for him,Keep encourage him and calling him.
Reply:i think that he has lost his motivation to do well, because of what his mom says. it seems that when his mom says that it isnt a big deal that he's doing bad in school, he just takes it as his mom doesnt care. i guess talking to his mom and him both would help, and keep encouraging him, thats most important.
Reply:Speak to his mom.
Reply:Get him a big brother companion to help him get motivated.Phone calls alone wont help.He needs a role model close to his own age to give him a perspective on life.
Reply:There isn't much more you can do, unless you want to move closer or take custody of him.
Reply:See about finding him a professional big brother. Not so much for homework reasons, but when he sees this professional, or almost professional having all these cool things, his cool life, etc., that might be the kick in the butt your nephew needs.
Reply:Without pushing to get the education, does he respond to you and your wife favorably when you are all together? My reason for asking that question is have you any thought of being available for adoption of your nephew? Is there any chance for that to happen? That would probably answer all the challenges you have with him because of the distance. If that is not possible what about a foster parent type situation, can you get custody of him until he is of age. Since his Mother has a difficult time keeping a full time job, then I would think that she would be open to that idea. I'm sure the Grandparents would also be relieved because of the additional expense that its costing them to keeping your nephew. It would also be like giving him a second change to improve his grades if you could get him transferred to a school near you after he graduates from the eighth grade. If he really is interested in a higher education than it would be in his best interest to be around people that can generate positive actions and help in his behalf. He can do without any negative feed back. Some younger prople don't have any idea how to cope with that kind treatment. I really hope some of this advise will help you, Good Luck, I'm sure you will do the right thing for your nephews best interest.
Reply:Sounds like he is bored or occupied with other things in school other than learning. My oldest son realized this on his own and asked if he could go to an alternative school to finish high school. He has brought home nothing but A's and B's since and he is also going to graduate earlier than his peers. You may want to offer this as an option and see if the mother will let him stay with you so you can see it through. Good luck
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Is she playing favorites?
Ok well this is the story... me and one of my best friends are in a college math class together and ever since we got in it... my friend has always ALWAYS got a better grade than me no matter what, even by one point. I have never gotten a higher grade than her. Well this last test we took we had trouble with the chapter so we went to tutoring 2 days and we studied together for 2 days! It seems like the teacher likes my friend better than me or she is playing favorites because she always gives my friend a better grade. On the test she got a 97 and me a 84! I mean god we tried and studied so hard and i am just so mad.. i dont understand it! Thats the only conclusion i can come to. I never did anything to the teacher either... i have always been so nice to her. Oh and i was wondering if maybe she looks at the names of the papers she grades b/c we turned ours in together so my test was on top of hers! i dont know what to think!
Is she playing favorites?
did u ever compare answers? usually teachers giv grades for the ANSWERS on ur TEST. ever look at hers and see if the answers r different. OHHHHHH.... yeah, right. tests r based on wat u learned. if ur answers r exactly the same, tell the principle. although i highly doubt it.
Is she playing favorites?
did u ever compare answers? usually teachers giv grades for the ANSWERS on ur TEST. ever look at hers and see if the answers r different. OHHHHHH.... yeah, right. tests r based on wat u learned. if ur answers r exactly the same, tell the principle. although i highly doubt it.
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